No, I don't mean be full of yourself and act like a Queen B (Beyonce, Blair Waldorf or Regina George, whoever may pop into your head) I mean be kind to yourself and don't be harsh on yourself. I know it sounds pretty bizarre but its what you need to do.
This summer, I made a vow to myself that I would try and learn to love myself a little bit more. I'm forever putting myself down, I believe I can't do things and quit before I have even started. Girls seem to put themselves down a lot, maybe boys do too but I personally have no experience in being a boy, obviously! Girls are constantly trying to perfect their image, they go on diets because they think they aren't skinny enough, they believe they aren't pretty and sometimes they can really criticise themselves so much that it becomes a problem. Us girls seem to find every single flaw we could possibly find and most times blow it way out of proportion and exaggerate and make a big deal out of nothing. But for some of us, that incy wincy thing could be a big blow to our confidence. But focusing on these things on the outside doesn't help us in any way, we can criticise ourselves as much as we want about our appearance, but there are just some things you cannot change, like facial structure or height or boob size (unless you want to pay a ridiculous amount of money for a boob job) but focusing on these things saying you wish they were better or that you looked better isn't going to make a difference and you just have to accept this. I have come to realise this is what you need to do. Accept it.
I put myself down a lot for numerous things and beat myself up about things I can't change, so if you can't change it, what's the point in getting hung up about it and upsetting yourself? Learn to deal with it and trust me, you'll soon realise it makes you happier, maybe not a lot, but it helps. So now, when I look in the mirror and go to criticise something, I say to myself "Is there anyway you can change that?" and if the answer is no then I say to myself "Ok then, wise up and get over it". Also if you do feel you have flaws, don't point them out to anyone, chances are, they won't have even noticed and its just you being paranoid.
Everyone just needs to chill out and stop caring about what other people think (easier said than done, I know!) but the less you care, the happier you will be. Of course, people will be nasty and you will feel hurt and upset if they do make a comment but if you are happy then you should just try your best to ignore them.
PUT YOURSELF FIRST! If you want to do something, do it! If you don't want to do something but everyone else is doing it, don't do it! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Don't follow the crowd. Be different. And most of all, LOVE YOURSELF!
Being the only single person out of my friends, I often get quite lonely and think to myself, why aren't guys interested in me? What's so wrong with me? And it is the latter question that makes me realise why I don't have a boyfriend. I question myself, I feel self concious, I'm shy around guys, I don't love myself. And so I realised if I'm not confident in myself and I don't feel good about myself then I'm not giving out a very positive vibe. I hide away and therefore no one is going to see me and guys won't even notice me. I'm my own worst enemy haha. I sit in my room most days watching Netflix so how do I expect to meet any guys (unless those guys are Chuck Bass, Nate Archibald or any hunks in the movies, and yes I am a huge Gossip Girl fan in case you hadn't noticed) I need to get up and give myself a shake and be the person I want to be and go out and do what I want to do and get what I want to get. Because no one else can do it for me.
All these thoughts have been clogging up my brain, its so good to finally get them out. Therefore this is an extremelyyyyyy long post. But it has helped a lot. More recently I have been 'loving myself' a lot more and have been treating myself. I've been having pamper evenings for myself which have included long hot baths with candles and facial masks, I've had girly nights in with my mum watching girly movies too. We watched "The Other Woman" last night and it was hilarious, we were still laughing at bits of it today so if you haven't seen it, be sure to go check it out. I also treated myself to some new make up brushes from Real Techniques among lots of other beauty buys. And I think I am starting to feel a little better about myself.
This blog alone was an improvement for myself. It was something I had wanted to do for a while and I finally thought 'Why not? What is holding you back? You want to do it so do it!' And I did, and it makes me happy.
I hope this inspires you to love yourself a little too.
